I believe the club scene, or what I've experienced of it so far at any rate, is a decent metaphor for the way the media (and porn as a potent epitome of one of its essential messages) portrays the roles men and women have in our society. Girls walk in and see they are supposed to dance a certain way, and so they dance this way. Guys see them dancing and touch them and dance with them all in the same way, assuming every girl has the same desires. After all, she is doing the same dance as the others. So when a girl walks in and decides to dance a little differently, she is still treated the same, and as a result constantly must reteach the boys how to interact with her.

My point is... If girls are always looking to men for the same things (i.e., protection, a sense of value, closeness or at the least a faded semblance of it), they cannot expect men to treat them as an individual.

Or, in the club/porn scenario, as more than a piece of sex, if that is all she is acting like she is to them.

Ugh.

Social Desires

Love is private.

Respect is public.

Generally, people who would rather be loved but treated like shit are people more OK with intimacy and expressing the emotions they encounter within themselves. And, generally, people who don't care if you hate them as long as you give them respect are the people who don't show a lot of emotion because they consider it something very, very personal.

Just a thought.